“Twin flames show you your fears and insecurities, but they can also show you how to overcome them,” Spinelli explains. That might not always mean the person is an exact mirror image of you. “There can be a lot of mirroring of life experiences,” Vallejos says.įor example, if you had a traumatic childhood, your twin flame may have as well. There’s a comfort that seems uncanny,” Vallejos says. “The number one thing is that it’s undeniably familiar, like… you’ve known them forever. You may even think you can feel the other person’s emotions. In a twin flame relationship, “something feels so familiar about the person,” Spinelli says. the meeting signifies a major change in your life.prioritization of growth over being in a relationship.multiple similarities, sometimes uncanny.There are a few signs psychologists say could point to a twin flame relationship: Still, there’s no scientific evidence that twin flames exist. As such, they act as mirrors for each other and can be a great source of reflection and growth. Twin flames are believed to be two halves of the same soul. While some scholars say Plato’s writings describe soulmates, “a lot of us use this as background for twin flames,” Vallejos explains.
In the fifth century B.C., Plato wrote in his philosophical text “Symposium” that the Greek god Zeus disempowered humans by splitting us into two halves, male and female. Yet the concept of twin flames goes back much further, Vallejos argues. In 1999, Prophet published the book “ Soul Mates and Twin Flames: The Spiritual Dimension of Love and Relationships.” Prophet coined the term “twin flame” in the 1970s, says Vallejos. Prophet is perhaps best known for calling on her followers to prepare for nuclear Armageddon in the late 1980s. Vallejos credits the term “twin flame” to Elizabeth Clare Prophet, a leader of the Summit Lighthouse and the New Age religion known as The Church Universal and Triumphant. “They seem to mirror one another, have shared similar life paths, history, and sometimes trauma,” she explains. Lisa Vallejos, PhD, LPC, a therapist who specializes in relationships, defines a twin flame as two people who have a deep soul connection. These individuals tend to have similar strengths and weaknesses and feel intensely connected over something shared - usually over shared pain, she explains. “Twin flames are two halves or mirrors of two different individuals,” says Barbara Spinelli, LP, a therapist, relationship expert, and CEO of Babita Spinelli Group and Opening the Doors Psychotherapy.